Dad Marks First Birthday With Son Since Wife Died With Homemade Nightclub
BY THEREDNOW STAFF
You can watch their complete evening out below:
Joe says that while its the hardest thing hes ever had to do in his life, Stanley has actually been his rock this previous year.
And currently Joe desires to get to out to other guys that are going via the same things as him, to supply them sustain and advice in dealing with life without a partner.
“In terms of coping with her death, its been hard but Stanley has been amazing,” the 34-year-old continues.
“Having him has helped me keep a level of normality and structure to life – a purpose.”
And Joe says he has always been honest with him about what happened to his mum.
He explains: “The day after she died I sat him down on his bed to tell him and his first words to the news were, Ill look after you, Daddy.
“We talk about her every day and always say goodnight to the photos of her above his bed.
“He really does understand. One of the things I was uncertain on was how much to tell him. I ended up telling him everything as I thought it was important for him to understand and not wonder if she was coming back.
“Telling him properly was the best thing I did as he fully understands.”
Katy worked for Kent Police and had been in the force for about 10 years before she died.
Since her death, Joe has marked a number of their milestones.
“Gradually, these things get better but the big days are always the worst,” he says.
“Our wedding anniversary was three days before her funeral and I went to see her in her coffin which was obviously not how I wanted to spend it.
“Then her birthday in September was really painful as I just wanted to spoil her like I usually would.
“She was very special, but she didnt realise how special she was.”
He adds: “Its made me realise how perfect life was before her death. It makes me wish there could be another chance to have those times back again.
“Ill never take anything for granted.”
And now Joe wants to reach out to other men who are going through the same things as him, to offer them support and advice in coping with life without a partner.
He says: “I would really like to help other single dads out there. I work full time and now look after Stan and the house, etc, and manage to juggle. So for any other dads out there, if they want to reach out to me, they can DM me on Instagram.
“Everyone has different support levels and strength, but youve gotta cry when you need to and smile when you need to.”